Wellbeing

Wellbeing arises from three things: being close to what is inside of us, saying no to temptations for distraction and dissociation, and saying yes to meeting our true needs. What else is there? Each is pertinent to living in wholeness and wakefulness. Only in being close to what is inside of us, in relationship to our Inner Child and God, can we discern what is truly loving and what is unloving.

When we are in distress, we must first connect inwardly to our Child, just as a mother's first instinct is to reach for her baby and bring them close. Returning to connection, the Child in us is soothed. And then they can tell us what is needed. Unless we first calm the Child in our body, we may not accurately discern what needs attention. Unless we first respond there, the survival brain—our strategies—will attempt to relieve our distress.